Laman

Rabu, 10 April 2013

HOW TO HEAL A BROKEN HEART AND LESSEN THE PAIN


Many who have been in a relationship know that the hardest part is overcoming the break-up. However, many do not know that no matter how long the relationship, you do not need to spend months to years reminiscing and crying about the loved one you've lost.
If things didn’t work out the way I wanted or imagined they should, I was devastated. And disappointment for me wasn’t an ordinary emotion. It was catastrophic. Once let down, I never fully recovered. I could never forget, and the break never mended. Like a glass vase that you place on the edge of a table, once broken, the pieces never quite fit again. But the problem wasn’t with the vase. Or even that the vases kept breaking. The problem was that I kept putting them on the edge of tables.
Before I was dependent on my relationships to fulfill my needs. I allowed those relationships to define my happiness or my sadness, my fulfillment or my emptiness, my security, and even my self-worth. And so, like the vase placed where it will inevitably fall, through those dependencies I set myself up for disappointment. I set myself up to be broken. And that’s exactly what I found: one disappointment, one break after another.
Our weight was only meant to be carried by God. We are told in the Quran: “…whoever rejects evil and believes in God hath grasped the most trustworthy hand-hold, that never breaks. And God hears and knows all things.” (Qur’an 2: 256.)
There is a crucial lesson in this verse: that there is only one handhold that never breaks. There is only one place where we can lay our dependencies. There is only one relationship that should define our self-worth and only one source from which to seek our ultimate happiness, fulfillment, and security. That place is God.
But this world is all about seeking those things everywhere else. Some of us seek it in our careers, some seek it in wealth, some in status. Some, like me, seek it in our relationships. And that’s exactly where I spent much of my own life: seeking a way to fill my inner void.
Ultimately, the question was about the nature of the dunya as a place of fleeting moments and temporary attachments. As a place where people are with you today, and leave or die tomorrow. But this reality hurts our very being because it goes against our nature. We, as humans, are made to seek, love, and strive for what is perfect and what is permanent. We are made to seek what’s eternal. We seek this because we were not made for this life. Our first and true home was Paradise: a land that is both perfect and eternal.
That’s why if we live in dunya with our hearts, it breaks us. That’s why this dunya hurts. It is because the definition of dunya, as something temporary and imperfect, goes against everything we are made to yearn for. Allah put a yearning in us that can only be fulfilled by what is eternal and perfect.
We must also realize that nothing happens without a purpose. Nothing. Not even broken hearts. Not even pain. That broken heart and that pain are lessons and signs for us. They are warnings that something is wrong. They are warnings that we need to make a change. Just like the pain of being burned is what warns us to remove our hand from the fire, emotional pain warns us that we need to make an internal change. That we need to detach. Pain is a form of forced detachment. Like the loved one who hurts you again and again and again, the more dunya hurts us, the more we inevitably detach from it. The more we inevitably stop loving it.
Pain is a pointer to our attachments. That which makes us cry, that which causes us most pain is where our false attachments lie. And it is those things which we are attached to as we should only be attached to Allah which become barriers on our path to God. But the pain itself is what makes the false attachment evident. The pain creates a condition in our life that we seek to change, and if there is anything about our condition that we don’t like, there is a divine formula to change it.

God says: Verily never will God change the condition of a people until they change what is within themselves.” (Qur’an, 13:11)

After years of falling into the same pattern of disappointments and heartbreak, I finally began to realize something profound. I had always thought that love of dunya meant being attached to material things. And I was not attached to material things. I was attached to people. I was attached to moments. I was attached to emotions. So I thought that the love of dunya just did not apply to me. What I didn’t realize was that people, moments, emotions are all a part of dunya. What I didn’t realize is that all the pain I had experienced in life was due to one thing, and one thing only: love of dunya.
As soon as I began to have that realization, I started to see what my problem was. I was expecting this life to be what it is not, and was never meant to be: perfect. And being the idealist that I am, I was struggling with every cell in my body to make it so. It had to be perfect. And I would not stop until it was. I gave my blood, sweat, and tears to this endeavor: making the dunya into jannah. This meant expecting people around me to be perfect. Expecting my relationships to be perfect. Expecting so much from those around me and from this life. Expectations. Expectations. Expectations. And if there is one recipe for unhappiness it is that: expectations. But herein lay my fatal mistake. My mistake was not in having expectations; as humans, we should never lose hope. The problem was in *where* I was placing those expectations and that hope. At the end of the day, my hope and expectations were not being placed in God. My hope and expectations were in people, relationships, means. Ultimately, my hope was in this dunya rather than Allah.
And so I came to realize a very deep Truth. An ayah began to cross my mind. It was an ayah I had heard before, but for the first time I realized that it was actually describing me:  “Those who rest not their hope on their meeting with Us, but are pleased and satisfied with the life of the present, and those who heed not Our Signs.” (Qur’an, 10:7)

By thinking that I can have everything here, my hope was not in my meeting with God. My hope was in dunya. But what does it mean to place your hope in dunya? How can this be avoided? It means when you have friends, don’t expect your friends to fill your emptiness. When you get married, don’t expect your spouse to fulfill your every need. When you’re an activist, don’t put your hope in the results. When you’re in trouble don’t depend on yourself. Don’t depend on people. Depend on God.
Seek the help of people, but realize that it is not the people (or even your own self) that can save you. Only Allah can do these things. The people are only tools, a means used by God. But they are not the source of help, aid, or salvation of any kind. Only God is. The people cannot even create the wing of a fly.  And so, even while you interact with people externally, turn your heart towards God. Face Him alone, as Prophet Ibrahim (as) said so beautifully: “For me, I have set my face, firmly and truly, towards Him Who created the heavens and the earth, and never shall I give partners to Allah.” (Qur’an, 6:79)
But how does Prophet Ibrahim (as) describe his journey to that point? He studies the moon, the sun and the stars and realizes that they are not perfect. They set.
So Prophet Ibrahim (as) was thereby led to face Allah alone. Like him, we need to put our full hope, trust, and dependency on God. And God alone. And if we do that, we will learn what it means to finally find peace and stability of heart. Only then will the roller coaster that once defined our lives finally come to an end. That is because if our inner state is dependent on something that is by definition inconstant, that inner state will also be inconstant. If our inner state is dependent on something changing and temporary, that inner state will be in a constant state of instability, agitation, and unrest. This means that one moment we’re happy, but as soon as that which our happiness depended upon changes, our happiness also changes. And we become sad. We remain always swinging from one extreme to another and not realizing why.
We experience this emotional roller coaster because we can never find stability and lasting peace until our attachment and dependency is on what is stable and lasting. How can we hope to find constancy if what we hold on to is inconstant and perishing? In the statement of Abu Bakr is a deep illustration of this truth. After the Prophet Muhammad died, the people went into shock and could not handle the news. But although no one loved the Prophet like Abu Bakr, Abu Bakr understood well the only place where one’s dependency should lie. He said: “If you worshipped Muhammad, know that Muhammad is dead. But if you worshipped Allah, know that Allah never dies.”
To attain that state, don’t let your source of fulfillment be anything other than your relationship with God. Don’t let your definition of success, failure, or self-worth be anything other than your position with Him (Qur’an, 49:13). And if you do this, you become unbreakable, because your handhold is unbreakable. You become unconquerable, because your supporter can never be conquered. And you will never become empty, because your source of fulfillment is unending and never diminishes.

Here 13 Ways On How To Heal A Broken Heart And Lessen The Pain Of Not Having Your Past Partner Anymore ♥
Although the path to completely moving on from your past partner can only totally be cured by time, these are some of the ways that can speed it up and help you move on with a lighter heart. 

1. Get rid of such objects that remind you of the person who broke your heart. Don’t return them
to that person, don’t burn them. Just keep them far from your reach. Get rid of photos, letters, emails, gifts and other items 

2. Avoid that person if possible. Try to minimize meetings with your former love. Avoid re-reading
the old messages; don’t quickly jump into answering their calls or quickly replying their messages. 

3. Analyze the reasons why you feel bad, think of ways in which some of these reasons can be eliminated or avoided. 

4. Remember why the romance ended. The relationship ended because you were not meant to be and you deserve better. God wanted to find you someone better who will truly love you the way you are, someone who won’t accuse you all the time. 

5. Remember and have hope that there will be better days ahead for you to be happy because life goes on. 

6. Spend more time with your friends and family. Have fun with them 

7. If you do not work out or exercise, start doing that, as it helps to reduce stress and depression. Exercise will help improve your body and self- image. 

8. Take a bath or shower when feeling very unhappy sometimes 

9. Start a new hobby or pastime. The pleasure of accomplishing something will counter act to the feelings of sadness. 

10. Keep yourself busy. 

11. Find activities to do that make you happy. Stay away from sad movies and the like. Go watch movies to the cinema, watch any interesting game.

12. Listen to music that gets adrenaline rushing; do not listen to slow, sad or romantic songs. 

13. Meet new people, you might find someone who will heal your heart and make u happy again..Wow am done..Hope it make sense..?
Trust me it works… salam

EVAPORATOR START-UP AND BTT CONTROL INSTRUCTIONS



·              Check that the overboard discharge valve has been opened. (MR/064 or MR/061)
·               Open the distillate delivery valve to technical water. (unless otherwise instructed)
·               Set the BTT (Brine Top Temperature – TICSA3°C 9) to 80.0°C.
·               Check the alarm screen for unacknowledged or active alarms.
·               Check that the Steam Booster Heater condensate drain valve is open
·               Press the ‘START-UP/OPERATION’ button.
·               The evaporator will now begin the start sequence phases.



 TICSA3°C 9 – Brine Top Temperature (BTT) Controller

80.0 = BTT Set Point (Input)
77.0 = BTT Set Point (PLC Output)
76.3BTT (Actual Temperature)

·         The operator selects the desired BTT (maximum 80°C)
·         The PLC determines the actual set point and ramps up the controller in steps of 1°C per 20 seconds



·               At the ‘Heating Phase’ the steam valve (RV3) will begin to open and heat the re-circulated HT water. The HT water valve (RV8) will remain closed on full recirculation.
·               When steam begins to appear from the Steam Booster Heater condensate drain the valve can be closed.
·               The ‘Heating Phase’ is complete when the BTT reaches 76.0°C.
·               The HT water valve (RV8) begins to open with the BTT reaches 78.0°C.
·               When the evaporator is in the ‘Start Production’ phase the BTT set point can be changed to best suit the steam plant load and the boilers can be appropriately adjusted, but no lower than 72.0°C.

START UP PROCEDURE EVAPORATOR



 Check before start-up:
·       Check seawater overboard valve is open
(Manual and remote control valve)
·       Temperature set point is 76 degrees or higher.
·       “Wait in stand by” is shown in the top left part of the control panel.
·       Check if none of the valves are in manual mode (as well on the control panel). Any valves in manual mode are yellow and in failure are red.

Start-up:
·       Open the manual condensate drain.
·       Press the white (start up/operation) button next too the control panel.

 During start-up:

·       When the condensate is completely drained, close the manual condensate drain.
·       If you here heavy steam banging please open de condensate drain valve again. Close the valve again if the banging stops.
·       Check if there are no leaks at pumps or valves.


·        Inform  ECR
·        Open Brine and Ejector overboard valves (manual and ABB)
·        Check if stage drain valves are closed
·        Open the seawater inlet valve on crossover
·        Open seawater suction and discharge valves of seawater pump
·        Open HT inlet and outlet valve
·        Open distilled water valve
·        Open distilled valve to tank
·        Check chemical treatment pump
·        Press auto start
·        When evaporator has started open steam valves if required
·        When on potable water:   -Check open position of valves on tanks
-Start Chlorination system

Evaporator will auto start via the following procedure
·        Seawater pump starts
·        Vacuum breaker valve closes
·        Temperature control valves starts it’s automatic control
·        Ejector pump starts
·        Feed water valve starts to control the feed pressure
·        Chemical dosing pump starts
·        Steam flash drain valve is closed
·        Steam flash pump starts
  • Brine pump and level control valve are enabled for control
  • The distilled pump and level control valve are enabled for control
  • Hot water circ pump is started
  • Steam valve starts to regulate
  • Salinometer is activated

Check operation of evaporator regularly

Evaporator Normal START–UP in automatic condition



Normal START–UP in automatic condition

·        Turn ON the main switch.
·        Make sure the evaporator is selected
on AUTO (position 3).
·        Press the push button ‘AUTOMATIC START’.
·        The seawater pump PU-SW-01 starts. (check valves)
·        The vacuum breaker valve VA-EV-01 closes.
·        The temperature control valve VA-SW-03 / TT-SW-01 starts it’s automatic control.
·        The ejector pump PU-EC-01 starts.
·        The feed water valve VA-FE-01 / PT-FE-01 starts to control the feed pressure.
·        The chemical dosing pump is started.
·        The steam flash drain valve VA-SF-01 is closed.
·        The steam flash pump starts.
·        The brine pump PU-BR-01 and level control valve VA-BR-06 are enabled for control.
·        The distillate pump PU-DI-01 and level control valve VA-DI-01 are enabled for control.
·        The hot water pump is started.
·        The steam valve VA-SI-01 starts to open the steam supply to the steam booster.
·        The salinometer switch is active.

For more information see:
Alfa Laval ‘Instruction manual for desalination units’ – Binder 1/3
- Section 4.3 Normal start-up.

Evaporator Normal “SHUT-DOWN” in automatic condition



 Normal “SHUT-DOWN” in automatic condition

·        Push the ‘AUTOMATIC STOP’ button.
·        The steam booster valve VA-SI-01 closes.
·        The hot water pump PU-HW-01 stops.
·        The ejector pump EC-PU-01 stops.
·        The vacuum breaker VA-SV-01 opens.
·        The system cools down for a period of time.
·        The seawater pump SW-PU-10 stops.
·        The feed water valve FE-VA-10 closes.
·        The chemical pump PU-CU-01 stops.
·        The seawater flash pump PU-SF-01 stops.
·        The seawater flash drain valve VA-SF-01 opens.
·        The vessels levels are drained for a period of time.
·        The brine pump BR-PU-10 stops.
·        The brine valve VA-BR-06 closes.
·        The distillate pump PU-DI-01 stops.
·        The distillate valve VA-DI-01 closes.

For more information see:
Alfa Laval ‘Instruction manual for desalination units’ – Binder 1/3
- Section 4.4 Normal shut-down.

Evaporator Operation


Switch Evaporator “off” in automatic mode


  • Close the manual steam supply valve and condensate valve
  • Close HT to and from Heat exchanger
  • Open HT bypass
  • Switch Evaporator OFF

When the Evaporator is completely OFF:


  • Close valve seawater cooling pump    
  • Close return valve of HT after heater
  • Close overboard valve on ABB
  • Main switch OFF
  • Check chlorine system
  • Open manual drain valve from heat exchanger

 

 

                               

Switch Evaporator “ON” in automatic mode


  • Start only when underway and at sea!
  • Open overboard valve on ABB ; Check the manual overboard valves when using Evaporators 2 and 3
  • Open distilled valve to potable / distilled and open distilled valve behind flow counter
  • Open return valve of HT after heater slowly
  • Open valve seawater cooling pump
  • Make sure manual drain valve from heat exchanger is closed
  • Double check if all valves of the Evaporator are in the correct position

  • Main switch ON
  • Press start
  • When hot water pump is running: Close HT bypass
  • When all pumps are running: Crack open the steam to the Evaporator (increase pressure slowly)
  • Check chemical pump
  • Check chlorine system



Westfalia BWS


In normal operation the Westfalia bilge water separator feedpump suction is on the oily bilge tank(15C). There is the possibility to get suction from the 1st, 2nd and 3rd stage of 15C. The Westfalia can be used in tank cleaning mode(recirculation over 15C) and the so called overboard mode(from 15C to 15PS). The recirculation water always goes back to the 1st stage.

STARTING the Westfalia bilge water separator

·         Check if correct suction valve of 15C is open(1st, 2nd or 3rd stage)
·         Check if the suction valve from 15C to the bilge water separators is open
·         Check if the suction valve in front of the suction filter is open
·         Check if the main suction valve in front of the Westfalia feedpump is open
·         Check if the technical water supply valve to the Westfalia is open
·         Check if the technical water supply to the OCM is open
·         Check if the air supply valve is open
·         Check if the sample water cooler cooling water valves are open
·         Check if the return valve to 15C is open
·         Check if the inlet valve of 15PS is open
·         Start the feed pump by pressing: FEED PUMP START
·         When the feedpump is running SLOWLY open up the main steam valve.
·         Start the Westfalia separator by pressing: SEPARATOR START
Now wait until the feed water temperature is > 75°C and the Westfalia separator has reached the correct RPM’s. If this is the case the display will indicate READY.
·         Press PROGRAM 1.
·         Press the TANK CLEANING YES/NO button if you want to recirculate over 15C or;
·         Press the OVERBOARD YES/NO button if you want to process 15C to 15PS via the OCM.
In order to recirculate over intermediate bilge water tank 15PS(tank cleaning) manifold valves ① and ⑨ have to be changed over and the purifier has to be in tank cleaning mode.
When you want to recirculate over 15PS check if the correct inlet valve of 15PS is open.

NOTE: In tank cleaning mode the Westfalia OCM is not in operation. There is no sample water going trough the OCM. The OCM is only in operation in the so called overboard mode.
NOTE: The feed pump can be selected manual or automatic. The automatic mode can only be used in the so called overboard mode. In tank cleaning mode the automatic function is not operational(Selector switch: FC FEED PUMP - options: A or M)
STOPPING the Westfalia bilge water separator
·         Press the OVERBOARD YES/NO button to select NO.
·         Press PROGRAM 0, the Westfalia will discharge.
·         After the discharge stop the Westfalia separator by pressing: SEPARATOR STOP
·         Close the manual steam valve
·         Wait until the temperature has dropped below 45°C
·         Stop the feed pump by pressing: FEED PUMP STOP
·         Close the main suction valve before the feedpump
·         Close the technical water supply valve to the Westfalia
·         Close the air supply valve
·         Close the sample water cooler cooling water valves
·         Flush the OCM with technical water for at least 30 seconds.